EVER MORE INTIMATE WITH UNCERTAINTY
(written in October 2017, during the Northern California fires.)
Are you living, ever more intimately, with uncertainty?
As the climate crisis hits my home, I write with lungs aching from wildfire smoke.
With fear for my parrot-in-a-coalmine.
Grief as I witness Sonoma County, my future home, gasp and reel with unspeakable conflagration and loss.
There have been many days of helplessness and confusion. Many nights of soul and internet searching.
As more of us join the ranks of house-less folks, climate change refugees, economic refugees, housing refugees, healthcare refugees;
As more of us lose the abundance that we were accustomed to: reliable shelter, possessions, healthcare;
As order gives way to chaos;
Uncertainty is our collective dance partner.
[She always was.]
Who knows what her next move will be, in a minute, in an hour, in a week?
What can we hold onto, how do we dance this ever-shifting, emerging dance?
I have more questions than answers.
Here and there, answers show up, some written by a wiser, calmer me.
Answers in the form of Resources, Practices and Mood-Mindsets.
My Heart asks,
What can we do in these times?
How can we trust ourselves and the universe?
Question: What Can We Do in These Times?
Living with “I Don’t Know”
Embracing a Vast Perspective
Prepare to Lose Everything
Become a Nomad
It’s time to get skilled at fold-up-my tent, pack-up-my-stuff and go. On a moment’s notice.
Shed the Unnecessary
In synch with this time, it feels urgent to shed what is unnecessary, including:
- Any non-essential possessions that possess me;
- The need to be right. The need to let everyone know I am right.
For example, I am weaning myself from the subtle/unsubtle bickering on social media about who is right, who is the most correct, who is the kindest, most thoughtful, most inclusive, most sensitive person or group of people.
Take Good Care of You
Emotional First Aid
Love Yourself (& Your Body)
Offer Refuge; Be a Refuge
Offer Refuge to Others
It is urgent now, and will continue to be necessary to provide refuge.
A place for folks to rest, and eat, and be clothed.
To tremble and unwind from trauma.
It’s not just time to offer a place of refuge.
It is time to BE a refuge, wherever you are, whatever your circumstances.
Each of us can be a refuge of kindness and patience and generosity.
What can you share?
Do you have an extra respirator mask?
Can you listen kindly and patiently to someone who is distraught, confused?
Someone who has less composure, less serenity than you have (at the moment!—you may be distraught tomorrow!)
You can provide clothes or shelter if you have them to share.
But if you don’t, you can provide prayers, eye contact, a steady voice.
Any of us be an expression of generosity and kindness, wherever we find ourselves.
If you find yourself in hell, look to your left, to your right.
Who is here with you? Are they scared, like you?
You can be a loving presence that says, “we are in this together.”
Question: How Can We Trust Ourselves & the Universe?
Finding Home in Our Bones
You Are a Force Of Nature
Trust the Universe
View Disruptions as Sacred
Can we live, ever more intimately, every more tenderly, with Uncertainty, our ancient, brand new dance partner?
Can we follow and lead, lead and follow?
Can we create beautiful new forms and ways of being?
I believe we can.
I believe we are.
May fire, air, earth and water transform and heal us all.
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